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Six simple words. Would it really be that hard to say? Recently, I have noticed a pattern among my girlfriends. With my ventures back into the dating world, as you may have read about here, it is expected that not every guy I’ve gone out with is a keeper. Sometimes, admittedly, it’s not my choice. When something appears to be askew, and I go to my girlfriend about it, I usually get an uplifting response excusing the irregular actions (or lack there of) that causes me to second guess how I am feeling about that particular situation.
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While pondering this subject the other night, I came upon the realization that women lie to each other in order to protect one another, but I have never had a male friend lie to me regarding my pursuits of the opposite sex. Granted, men are prevalently not as sensitive as women, but I would rather have someone tell me like it is. I sat nursing a heaping plate of orange chicken one day while discussing a failed fling with a close guy friend, inquisitively whining to him about how I could not figure out why things had suddenly changed, plans had been consistently cancelled, and a guy that had once seemed so well rounded and attractive could suddenly become so immature and flaky. It was like a light switch had been flipped off and I had been left in the pitch black…kind of like Helen Keller…but exceptionally well dressed. Rather briskly into the conversation, he cut me off and said “he just thought you were hot.” It was like a back handed compliment; a slap in my perfectly contoured cheeks. While this was not the best, or worst, thing to hear come out of his mouth, it was like ripping off a band aid. There was no “let’s play the guessing game,” or anticipation of things getting rekindled to their original state, it was over as fast as it had started, and that was that.
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Conversely, men lie to women as much as we lie to each other, but in very obscure ways. One thing I absolutely cannot wrap my head around, is the fact that guys cannot just end things in a direct form. It would be copiously in-complex for the man, and the woman, if he would just say “I’m not that into you.” Alright, maybe not those exact words, but somewhere along those lines would be extremely helpful. Why try to push us away? This seems like strenuous effort, when you probably will not obtain the result you desire. When a girl wants something to workout, she will ignore the irrational behavior being demonstrated at all costs. While I still do not understand this concept, I am now playing my own guessing game as to how this could benefit the male (or giving) end. Is the man slowly trying to deteriorate the relationship (fling, thing, etc) and have the girl realize it so that when the actual break up comes, she will apprehend it? Without a doubt, they are just dragging the cluster fuck that they have created out further. While as strong females we should have the audacity to end something that is just not right, we often do not, so the guys warped plan in the end fails. I suppose that on some level, this is a guys version of trying to protect our feelings, which I still find extremely strange. Do they not realize that by playing these games, it makes the whole process of ending whatever it was, stickier then it needed to be? I once had a mutual guy friend with a guy I was seeing. When things started deviating from the norm with this particular guy, I was told he was trying to “make himself as unattractive as possible to me in order to avoid confrontation.” Is that not the dumbest thing you have ever heard?